The Lessons I Learned That I Still Follow
It’s about 3 am on a Saturday and the young girl hears the sounds of footsteps above her head in the distant corner of the house. Her mom would be coming down the stairs any minute telling her to go to bed, “it’s 3 am and everyone is trying to sleep” she could imagine hearing her mother say. The footsteps come closer and she hears the first creak of the stairs, that’s it here it comes, brace yourself. She listens to the next footstep and the next until she sees her mother in the entryway of the living room, tired eye as she is about to utter the words the daughter had already imagined. Yet, she does the unexpected, she sits down to the young girl and says with a giant childlike grin, “this is one of my favorite episodes.” This is my first memory of falling in love with I Love Lucy.
Within the first minute of me watching this woman, I felt connected in a way with her as if I had known her my whole life. I was memorized by her movements, her wit and of course whatever trouble she was going to get in during the next 30 minutes. Over the years and watching each episode at least 30+ times, I laugh even harder each time and I always take something away from each episode.
In a world where it becomes easier and more in our faces to compare ourselves with one another, it’s vital to remember yourself. Our DNA is made from the generations before us but there are DNA’s that we create for ourselves. We have opportunities to be the person who we want to be each day, it all starts with having a love for yourself. Think about someone you love unconditionally in your life, you would do anything for them, give them support and wrap your arms around them. Now, do you do that for yourself? Do you shower your mind, body, and soul with affection? When you have a deep love for yourself, then confidence in everything you do just happens and you will see amazing things begin to surface before your eyes.
How many times did we see Lucy try to live out her one goal the thing she long for the most, to be a star! No matter who told her she couldn’t or the obstacles they placed in her way, she ALWAYS found a way to succeed and live out her dreams. She stood up for what she wanted and believed in herself to the ends of the earth, which spoke volumes to the young girl with her eyes glued on this magnificent person and got her to think she too could achieve anything she wanted. Her courage and self-confidence imprinted on my soul, and for a determined young wild girl it gave her the drive to push forward and live her dreams.
Have you ever heard the phrase “You’re the Ethel to my Lucy”? I know I have. In a world where we are ever changing from locations, schools and as individuals, most times friendships that were made are a distant memory. It’s a true gem and blessing to have strong, loving, healthy friendships that create unbreakable bonds. Looking back at that young girl, I’m blessed truly, that one of the people that I had by my side laughing hysterically is still my best friend to this day, the Ethel to my Lucy. That show continues to remind me how precious friendships and relationships are to our lives and that the people we chose to surround ourselves with the need to be the best for the life you want to live. With every crazy idea Lucy came up with Ethel was always 100% by her side. Through the years people have come and gone, yet today I can say proudly that I have surrounded myself with the best people I know in this world.
“Oh, you’re so silly!”James probably says this to me at least three times a day. Whether I’m making faces at him, dancing around the house or just being a young wild spirit. It’s very easy to let the challenges or changes in our daily lives to through us off and we can experience being down or hard on ourselves. I know from personal experience that when things happen that rubs me the wrong way it can spiral me into a place of negativity and aggravation. But it’s me getting in my own, I choose how to react to the world around me. It’s important for me to remember that and to embrace change. Changes challenge you and either push you to greatness or push you down. I choose to not be pushed down. Being silly, free and wild brings me happiness to my soul and to the surroundings around me. If one of us is a little bit off it feels good knowing that it all it make take to bring a smile to our faces is a silliness that reminds us that everything is going to be ok. I love knowing that I will always stay true to that. I will always be that young, wild girl who will be dancing around in the kitchen, singing loudly and crazy in the car and bringing a piece of joy to myself but also the beautiful souls around me. Doing the things that bring me light, love, and laughter just allow the positivity to flow through my veins and out into the world. That show always and will forever remind me that laughter is truly the best medicine and can cure any heartache or pain.
In honor of my own Lucille Ball, my Nana xoxo