Secrets to Achieving Your Dreams Instead of Sabotaging Them

Secrets to Achieving Your Dreams Instead of Sabotaging Them
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Young, Carefree & Adventurous

Remember when you were a carefree, adventurous kid, with the world at your fingertips. Not too many things to worry about, maybe only making sure you didn’t tip the swing set over as you pumped your feet to go higher. Oh, how I love the swings and vividly remember gazing up at the clouds and endless blue sky. Swinging higher and inching closer, imagining that if I jumped I would land in those marshmallows clouds.

I would close my eyes and was flying with the wind in my hair and my imagination would take off. You may say I have “my head in the clouds”. Through the years I’ve noticed that some frown upon the “head in the clouds” mentality. They tend to view my endless passions as complex and impractical. Here’s the unpleasant part, I believed what they were saying and I started to hide my dreams.

Do You Believe Everything You Hear?

They were right, yes what I want to accomplish in this life is complex and and seem too far-fetched. The dreamer in me started to disappear. I could feel the negativity and lack of conviction pouring into my veins like poison. I put myself in situations where I knew the outcome wouldn’t be what I wanted but it was a comfortable. However, I was kicked flat on my butt with the reality I’m not meant to take the easy way.

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The Growing Pains

Growth, a word we hear all of our lives. “Oh how you have grown” or “you’re so grown up” but that growth comes almost naturally with life. However, it’s the internal, personal growth that other’s may not see so vividly. It’s when you take the time, to find oneness with yourself and decide the person you want to be. It doesn’t just happen on a quiet Sunday day cozy on the couch, it takes time. Time to work out whatever has been sabotaging you in the first place (insert here). In my life, it was self-doubt, lack of confidence and life experiences.

For the better part of a year, I made time for myself and started the growth within myself. Once I realized I had the absolute power to achieve my dreams and what it would entail me to do, I felt free. Read below for my secrets on how you too can achieve your goals. How to make them a reality and know you have the power to change your path. All I ask is, open your mind and heart to explore you and all you can achieve.

Start Achieving & Succeeding

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When you ask someone what their goals are in life, you hear the common “society laws that we abide by” such as a nice home, a healthy growing family and usually a certain increment of money. Let’s play a game, you receive a magic stone and can produce anything you want. Would you ask for those three things listed above? When defining your goals they have to come from you, your deepest wants and desires. As a result, they can’t be someone else’s because that isn’t your vision. If you don’t have a complete understanding of your goals how can you take the steps to achieve them?

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Take a moment, grab a notebook or a piece of paper and start to scribble down the goals you want to achieve. Don’t be afraid to write something down or think it’s an unreachable goal, just write it down. Next, let’s take a look at what we wrote and zone in on what we want to accomplish. Review your dreams, combine similar goals and cut down on the number of words until you’re left with a clear, simple statement.

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There they are, sitting right in front of us, our clear and defined goals. We are feeling great and that we’re set on the right path to success. Now, have you ever opened the fridge, started a grocery list in your head only to forget when you get the store? It happens all the time, we produce over 50,000 thoughts in a single day, 50,000 people! That is a lot of information to remember and process, therefore it’s easy to forget. So how can we keep our goals at top of mind every day? It’s very simple, remind yourself!

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Trust, to a certain degree, I feel we all experience issues with trust. Whether it’s with our own willpower, trusting others or allowing others to trust us. From personal experience it can be hard to trust, simply for the fear of being let down. We hold a high standard of what we expect from life and when things change trust can be lost. We begin to question the people around us, the journey we are headed on and maybe even ourselves.

Let’s say that I told you that you can achieve everything you wanted, would you believe me? Most likely not as we tend to think realistically and technical. We live a life that if we can’t see something right in front of us, it is hard to believe that it will. Yet, there are many amazing experiences, people throughout our lives that we didn’t see coming. So trust that the goals you want to achieve are in your complete power. Trust yourself and your journey.

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You will see that the more small steps you take towards your goals the closer you’re to succeeding. Those individuals that wish and do nothing, will have a hard time with believing because not much is happening. Remember you play a giant part in your goals succeeding. No one else can’t carry out my wishes because like I’ve said, they’re MINE! What I find works best for me, is to write out at least three things I can do now that will help me thrive. I know that these small gains will carry out to what I truly want.

You’ve Got This



58 thoughts on “Secrets to Achieving Your Dreams Instead of Sabotaging Them”

  • I think that one of the things that holds us back is definitely fear, fear of failure and the “what will they say” syndrome when you decide to work towards your dreams. There will always be moments that might turn out differently from what we have hoped for, but this shouldn’t keep us from trying and continuing to stick with the dream.

  • Thank you for such an inspirational posts! I’m currently working on mastering self communication. I can so easily talk myself out of something. (like waking up early!)

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