Secrets to Achieving Your Dreams Instead of Sabotaging Them

Secrets to Achieving Your Dreams Instead of Sabotaging Them

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Remember when you were a young carefree, adventurous kid, with the world at their fingertips. There weren’t too many things to worry about, maybe only making sure you didn’t tip the swing set over as you pumped your feet to go higher and higher. Oh, how I loved the swings and can vividly remember gazing up at the clouds and endless blue sky with each time I swung forward, inching closer and closer as if I jumped off I would land in those puffy white marshmallows. Sometimes I would close my eyes and feel like I was flying with the wind in my hair and the possibilities were endless as to where I would go. Some may even say I have “my head in the clouds” with my dreamer mentality and that anything is possible. With this being said not everyone feels the same way and may even view my passions as complex and impractical.

Here’s the unpleasant part, I started to believe what they were saying and one by one my goals seemed impossible and soon non-existent. They were right, yes the things I want to accomplish in this life are complex and can easily be judged as way too far-fetched. The dreamer in me was starting to disappear and I could feel the negativity and lack of conviction pouring into my veins like poison. I was putting myself in situations where I knew the outcome wouldn’t be what I wanted but it seemed like the easiest way and where I would feel the less judged. However, I was kicked flat on my butt and was slapped in the face with the reality I’m not meant to take the easy way out let alone follow anyone else’s path. This is my journey and it’s what I make of it.

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Growth, a word we hear all of our lives, “oh how you have grown” or “you’re so grown up” but that growth comes almost naturally with life. However, it’s the internal, personal growth that other’s may not see so vividly. It’s when you take the time, real deep thought time to find oneness with yourself and decide the person you want to be. It doesn’t just happen on a quiet Sunday day cozy on the couch, it takes time. Time to work out whatever has been sabotaging you in the first place (insert here), in my life, it was self-doubt, lack of confidence and life experiences. For the better part of a year, I made time for myself and started the growth from within I wanted to achieve. Once I realized I had the absolute power to achieve my dreams and what it would entail me to do, I felt free.

Read below for my secrets on how you too can achieve your goals instead of letting them slip away. Make them a reality and know you have the power to change your path to the one you have always wanted. All I ask is that you open your mind and heart to explore the amazing person you are and all you can achieve in this life.

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When you ask someone what their goals are in life, they tend to say the common “society laws that we abide by” such as a nice home, a healthy growing family and usually a certain increment of money. Yet, let’s play a game, you receive a magic stone which can produce anything you want, would you ask for those three things listed above? When defining your goals they have to come from you, your deepest wants and desires. They can’t be someone else’s wishes or dreams for you because that isn’t your vision. If you don’t have a complete understanding and solid statement of your goals how can you take the steps to achieve them?

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So, take a moment, grab a notebook or a piece of paper and start to scribble down the most important goals you want to achieve. Don’t be afraid to write something down or think it is an out of this world goal, just write it down. It’s ok if you write a couple of sentences for certain goals, just get them down on that paper. Next, let’s take a look at what we wrote and start to really zone in on what we want to accomplish so there is no mistake in what we are asking. Review what you wrote down and combine any similar goals and start to cut down on the number of words used in the sentences until you are left with a clear, simple statement.

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There they are, sitting in right in front of us, our clear, defined goals, we are feeling great and that we are set on the right path to success. Have you ever opened the fridge and started a grocery list in your head only to forget almost everything when you get the store? It happens all the time, we produce over 50,000 thoughts in a single day, 50,000 people! That is a lot of data and information to remember and process, therefore it’s easy to forget and things become undone. So how can we keep our goals at top of mind every day? It’s very simple, remind yourself! Here are some examples of ways to remind yourself and crush these goals!

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Trust, to a certain degree, I feel we all have experience issues with trust, whether it was with our own willpower, trusting others or allowing others to trust us. I know from personal experience it can be hard to trust simply for the fear of being let down. We hold a high standard of what we expect from life and when things change the trust can be lost. We begin to question the people around us, the journey we are headed on and maybe even ourselves. Let’s say that I told you that you can achieve everything you wanted, would you believe me? Most likely not because we as human begins tend to think realistically and technical if we can’t see something right in front of us, it is hard to believe that it will. Yet, there are many amazing experiences, people throughout our lives that we didn’t see coming. So remind yourself and trust that these goals you want to achieve are in your complete power. Trust yourself and your journey.

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You will see that the more small steps you take towards your goals the closer you are to succeeding. Those individuals that wish and do nothing to change their routines or actions that correspond with their end goals, they will have a hard time believing in the process because not much is happening. Remember you play a giant part in your goals because they are yours. My mom, James or even my best friend can’t carry out my wishes because like I’ve said so many time before, they are MINE! What I find works best for accomplishing my goals is to write out at least three things I can do now that will help me thrive. I know that these small gains will carry out what I truly want.

58 thoughts on “Secrets to Achieving Your Dreams Instead of Sabotaging Them”

  • I think that one of the things that holds us back is definitely fear, fear of failure and the “what will they say” syndrome when you decide to work towards your dreams. There will always be moments that might turn out differently from what we have hoped for, but this shouldn’t keep us from trying and continuing to stick with the dream.

  • Thank you for such an inspirational posts! I’m currently working on mastering self communication. I can so easily talk myself out of something. (like waking up early!)

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